Tamera Says I Do!

Tamera Mowry got her dream wedding on Sunday when she married Fox News Channel correspondent Adam Housley in Napa Valley. The Sister, Sister star, 32, and Housley, 39, tied the knot at an inn and vineyard surrounded by 300 guests.  Among the bride's eight bridesmaids were maid of honor Andrea Regalado and Mowry's twin sister and matron of honor Tia Mowry.


Catch up over at People...

So Why Do YOU date Interracially?

According to Ownbla.com, interracial relationships are sexy, exciting and enlightening.  They're also different, that's what many singles are looking for in a companion. As human beings, men and women tend to become bored with the same routine. Whether it is their career, the food they eat or the significant other in their lives. When boredom is within the dating routine, American singles are more open to interracial dating.

Duh...tell us something we don't know!

Alvin Ailey Dancer/Director, Ronnie Favors Marries Last Saturday In NYC

First I'm going to state the obvious: Black Don't Crack ya'll.  She's absolutely beautiful. Age 54 never looked so good! He's no slouch either.  Two Master's degrees..and he's over 60??


From the New York Times:


Ronni Favors and Bill Colavito were married Saturday evening at the Palm House at the Brooklyn Botanic Garden. Donna Walker-Kuhne, a minister of religious ceremonies for Soka Gakkai International USA, a Buddhist lay organization in Manhattan, led a Nichiren Buddhist ceremony.


I'm Out!

Black Woman Married To A White Man Gets Ridiculed On Air...

Talk radio host Dr. Laura Schlessinger issued an apology for saying the N-word several times during an on-air conversation with a caller this week. "I talk every day about doing the right thing. And yesterday, I did the wrong thing," Schlessinger said on her radio show Wednesday.


Schlessinger was referring to a call she got on her show Tuesday from an African-American woman who said she was married to a white man and was getting fed up with her husband allowing his family and friends to say things that she felt were racist.- CNN


What in the tomandhelenwillis Hell is going on? Did the woman ever get some adequate advice?


Sooo many questions *scratches head*  :-/


Here the racial rant phone call after the jump...

"Hipster" Dating In Brooklyn

Looking for love? Got five minutes and some Ray Ban wayfarers?  Speed dating, a party where groups of people have micro-dates over the course of an evening in a sort of amorous musical chairs is being rebranded as a younger, hipper alternative to online dating.  In Brooklyn's Williamsburg neighborhood, an event called "The Internet Killed Your Social Skills" is drawing crowds every first Thursday of the month, filling a bar with a sea of 20-somethings in fedoras.  Julia Segal, 25, founded the event, nicknamed "hipster speed dating," as a way to polish up the dating skills that online dating and social networking sites, such as Facebook, have helped to obliterate.  Since it began six months ago, the event has gained enough momentum to warrant a second night. Soon hipster speed dating will come to nearby Park Slope- Ryan McClendon

Park Slope…really? I thought Park Slope was filled with pretentious married yuppies with children.  Who knew?  

More dating opportunities after the jump…

Black Man Gets Locked Up Because Of Letter To President Obama

Not everyone expects a response when they write a letter to the president of the United States. But Caroline Jamieson got much more than she expected when her husband ended up in jail and afraid he would be deported. Jamieson, vice president of marketing at a new-media advertising company, wrote President Barack Obama in January because her husband, Hervé Fonkou Takoulo, was facing deportation to his native Cameroon. Takoulo failed in a bid before political asylum almost a decade ago, and a judge issued a deportation order after they were married. After he and Jamieson married on 2005, Takoulo applied for a green card based on his marriage to a U.S. citizen. But immigration law requires that the deportation order be lifted before the couple can appear before immigration officials to argue their case that the marriage is legitimate and not a ploy to legalize Takoulo's presence in the United States. More after the jump...

OK, let me get this straight, they went against the deportation laws but the wife felt a "kinship" with the President and because the process was "difficult to do" she writes a personal letter to him which gets her husband locked up?

Caroline Jamieson you win DWB's first Vuvuzelas Award. I salute you!

Damn One Interracial Family Being Ridiculed Ain't Enough?

OK...so we had a white university coach get canned because he's married to a black woman.

Now we have a black woman get fired because she had a child out of wedlock. The justification is simply mind blowing!

Me thinks it's because of the photo of her family to the left.

Jury, what say you?

Peep the page for the rest of this foolishness...

Meet me at the Forum to discuss...

I'm out!

Race and Dating In Boston

Meredith Goldstein
Boston.com


I am a young, black, college-educated professional who has lived in Boston for most of my life. I recently turned 30 and am ready to have a serious relationship with someone special, irrespective of race.

I have dated a few Caucasian and Asian men, and one person from the Middle East. Every one of these encounters ended immediately after they realized that I was expecting more than a sexual relationship (I usually ended it). However, getting to that point was only half the battle. The hardest part was the approach! I think a lot of surprisingly wonderful relationships could be had if people weren't afraid to step inside or outside of the "crayon box." There have been many instances where I'll overhear a white guy telling his friends how "hot" he thinks I am or after having way too many beers obnoxiously yell "I love Black chicks!" Not including the annoying drunk guy -- why won't non-black men approach me if there is physical interest? Before anyone ask... yes I date black men. More after the jump...

Meet me at the Forum to discuss...

White Man Recalls Threats When He Started Dating Black Woman

Raleigh Ceasar remembers the taunts and threats when he, a white man, began dating Carla, a black woman in Brooklyn in the early 1990s.

"People said things on the street. My family disapproved immensely, even though I grew up in an extremely diverse, international suburb of Washington, D.C. ," said Ceasar, 44, whose parents didn’t attend the wedding when he married Carla 15 years ago.

USA Today: More Marriages Mix Races Than Ever

Mary Brophy Marcus
USA Today

Marriages between spouses of different races and ethnicities are more common than ever before, say authors of a report by the Pew Research Center.

A record 15% — about one out of every seven — of new marriages in 2008 landed in the "Marrying Out" category, the report says.

Passel says white-Hispanic marriages were the most common interethnic unions, making up about four in 10 (41%) of the 280,000 total couples who had intermarried.

The single most surprising finding in the report, Passel says, is that 22% of newly wed black men married women who were not black. "If you look back at data from 50 years ago, such marriages were illegal in many parts of country," he says.

Is USA Today trying to steal shine from Hawaii? Passel's surprised at the statistics concerning black men marrying out? Has he been living under a rock these past decades? LOL

More racial harmony after the jump...

Did a Black College Discriminate Against Its First White Coach?

About.com: Race Relations
Nadra Kareem

May 31, 2010


In 2007, Savannah State University made history when it hired Robby Wells--the school's first white football coach. But after leading the Savannah State Tigers for two years, Wells resigned early this year. He now says that the Georgia-based historically black college gave him the choice of resigning voluntarily or being fired. According to a federal lawsuit filed by the former coach, school officials not only took issue with his race but with the fact that he's engaged to a black woman.

Suzan Lori Parks Gets Animated

Suzan Lori Parks is an African American playwright and screenwriter. She received the MacArthur Foundation "Genius" Grant in 2001, and the 2002 Pulitzer Prize for Drama for her play, Topdog/Underdog.

Parks' first screenplay was for Spike Lees's 1996 film, Girl 6. She later worked in conjunction with Oprah Winfrey's Harpo Productions on screenplays for Their Eyes Were Watching God (2005) and the 2007 film, The Great Debaters. Parks' plays include Imperceptible Mutabilities in the Third Kingdom, The Death of the Last Black Man in the Whole Entire World, In The Blood and Fucking A.


Suzan is married to blues musician Paul Oscher

Check out the video at Nick Jr!

Hawaii Still Leads U.S. With Highest Rate of Mixed Marriages

Honolulu Advertiser
May 27, 2010

Nearly one-third of marriages in the Islands are between interracial couples — by far the largest percentage in the country and four times the national average, according to a new analysis of the latest census figures. That Hawai'i tops the nation in its percentage of mixed-race marriages probably comes as no surprise to residents: Hawai'i — known for its diverse population and melting pot attitude — has held the spot for decades. Meanwhile, nationally, the growth of interracial couples is slowing among U.S.-born Hispanics and Asians.

After Hawai'i, Alaska has the highest percentage of mixed-race marriages — 19 percent. Oklahoma, New Mexico and Nevada round out the top five, while West Virginia is at the bottom of the list, with 2.9 percent. More after the jump...

We Interrupt Our Regularly Scheduled Broadcast...

When asked about her *ahem* ensemble, Venus responded with, "It's all about the illusion." To That I say...

Dayuuum V

I would've sold my Mama to sit in the press box that day!

Something tells me that if Serena was the one swinging her cakes tennis racket around that day, President Obama would be on CNN right nah making an official apology of some sort.

Do You Date The Same Way You Handle Your Finances?

When my cousins married white women it didn’t seem to cause an uproar. For some reason, I don’t expect the same reaction if Stephanie or I decided to marry a white man.

I don’t have any proof of this, it’s just a feeling I get. It seems that we aren’t supposed to have the same options as our cousins did- Wise Diva


Folks we pretty much know how society usually reacts when it comes to black women dating out.

Selena-pedia, First Edition 2010, defines dating out as getting bizzy with the enemy, hooking up with massa, or worshipping tha white man. In layman's terms "dating-out" typically refers to the romantic relationship between said black woman and the whiskey-bravo (better known in the urban community as a white boy).

However the real question is, do you date the same way you handle your finances? In other words, are you the type of person that places all of his/her eggs in one basket-while hoping for a small profit? Or do you exercise ALL your dating options while undoubtedly receiving the highest rate of return all your time and hard research can buy?

To quote Access Atlanta's the Wise Diva,"Are you diversifying your dating options?"

Damn Even The Texan White Guy Smells Bullsh**

For society to become concerned with the plight of black women now that black women are succeeding on their own terms would be comical if it weren’t so sad. 

Many of the black women succeeding today have toiled in obscurity for years at the bottom of the societal barrel, often in broken homes and with life circumstances that would melt most people.  The fact that our society is saying black women need to find a good black man to settle down with is an insult.- Jeff Bolton



Earlier today while visiting my girl CW's site I came across an interesting article written by a gentleman by the name of Jeff Bolton.  Honestly, I've never heard of him before today, but I'm glad she posted the article. Bacially Jeff is just as puzzled as most of us are as to why the media continues to grind out these "woe is me" stories about African-American women in dating and marriage.

One of my favorite quotes from Jeff:

There’s nothing wrong with them. They shouldn’t be forced into a box made by society’s expectations for them. Why is the sad, tired story of the failure of black men in society placed ahead of that of the success of black women in this pop culture reporting? 

O_o  *scratches head*

One commenter named Monie believes she knows the real reason for the relentless bashing against African-American women in the media:

Monie:

Ever since Michelle has become the First Lady, there has been an onslaught of negative images and commentary. Michelle Obama is well-spoken, classy, fit, formally educated and happily married with children. It’s as if the media wants to quickly remind black women of who we “really are” and to not get lost in the “fantasy” that is Michelle’s life.  So what do they do? Replace magazine cover images of the Gabby Unions with the Gabby Sidibes, promote televised discussions and books written by self-appointed black relationship gurus who are nothing more than womanizers themselves (Harvey and Harper) and fill the magazines and e-mags with articles on single black womanhood to plague us with self-doubt, loneliness and bitterness. It’s so pathetic; and I don’t hear this nonsense about black women in countries like the United Kingdom. They really need to leave us alone. More after the jump...
 

Clutch Magazine: What White Men Think About Dating Black Women

Clutch Magazine’s Alaina Lewis did a great piece on interracial dating among black women and white men. Several white men were interviewed, and let’s just say most of them (if not all) got more than a little real with their responses!

Alaina: Have you, or have you ever considered dating a black woman?

“I have, but it’s something that’s unfortunately never happened for me, because every time I approach a black woman I sense a resistance of not wanting to be with someone white, unless he acts black. And I’m not trying to offend anyone with my ‘acts black’ statement. I’m just meaning, that black women only want to date white men who have a little more soul than I do and don’t listen to rock music.” – Paul G.

“I’ve dated African American women, Asian women, white women and whomever else. When you turn out the lights, they’re all just women. The only difference is, some like mayonnaise on everything, and the others like soy or hot sauce. A little joke for ya.” – Rory H.

Alaina: Do the negative stereotypes the media projects on the African American woman scare you away from dating that race? ( i.e. “the black woman’s attitude.”)

“No, I don’t buy into any theories that attitude is more common among black women, there’s plenty of women with attitude in every race. I’ve met some ‘white trash’ princesses in my day with attitude that is off the charts. Anyway, the media just promotes whatever seems to get them the highest ratings. Unfortunately nowadays, that involves showcasing vulgar, loudmouth, self-obsessed, drunken skanks. Shows like the “Jersey Shore,” “The Real World,” and any other reality show on VH1 or MTV are prime examples. If I took my cues from the media, I would be scared of dating all women.” – Jesse D.

“It’s not the media that scares me away from not wanting to date a black women, it’s black men that make me think differently. I say that to say this, and I’m only giving you my observation… I see a lot of black men running around with a white girl on their arm, which is fine, but when I’ve sat down with brothers and asked them why they don’t like dating black women, they always have something negative to say about you guys, whether it be your attitude, your jealousy, or the thought that you guys want to play the man of the house. I don’t need to watch to TV to see what I can see when I walk down the block. But I don’t have to buy into that either, which I don’t, but I am aware of what’s being said about yall by your own men. It’s a shame to see that.” – Paul G.

More after the jump...

How Does It Feel To Be a Black Single Problem?

By Farai Chideva

Huffington Post

April 24, 2010

 

It's open season on black womanhood. Nightline became the latest media outlet to tackle the issue of why black women aren't married. The problem is not the topic, but the approach. Like a recent series of articles, books, and television segments (and one Nightline did last year), the show's focus was on the purportedly low value of black women in the dating marketplace and the wisdom of black women's choice to stay single versus marrying men who don't fit their criteria.

Let's get real for a minute here. Yes, black women are sometimes taken for granted by black men, and men of other races. (I'm thinking here of musician John Mayer saying he had a "David Duke c**k," because it only responded to white women. Black womens' response, for the most part: awesome dude...!

If Whites are the New Blacks, Then Why Am I Doing This White Guy?

The Awl
By Charlie

"....When it comes to the men I sleep with, I’m consistently pretty dull. White dude after white dude after white dude after white dude. This is a good thing, in one way, because we all know: most interracial couples are doomed from the beginning.  So why not slap on some Dereon jeans, get a weave and roll out on some 22s with one of the strong, independent, church-going black men my mother keeps telling me about? Stop screwing every Tom, Dick and Harry—and start screwing Leroy, Darrell and John. Less white.  More black."  More after the jump...

Love Is (Color) Blind

Caddi Golia tries to ignore the stares when she walks down the sidewalks of Washington with her boyfriend. Holding hands and smiling at each other, they look like any other couple. Except for one clear difference: She’s black and he’s white. Mixed-race couples have been popping up in big-name movies such as Tyler Perry’s I Can Do Bad All by Myself and Rick Famuyiwa’s Our Family Wedding. Still, students like Golia and her boyfriend Jake Reed still think their relationship is viewed as anything but mainstream. For many mixed-race couples at this university, the issue isn’t their relationships being tolerated — it’s their relationships being accepted. “It can get awkward,” said Golia, a junior public health major. “I don’t think [my boyfriend] notices, but I do and I just generally ignore it”