Insomina Is A Bitch..But It Taught Me Over 6,700 Reasons Why...

Yeah we all know that insomina is a bitch.  Thank God for the innernet because without it, I'd be up until 4:00 AM watching P90X commercials. For example while surfing the net this morning, I came across a popular post on Fyooz.  This particular post not only started FOUR years ago, it's garnered over 6,700 responses and still counting!

What's the title of the article you ask? It's "Why White Men Love BlackWomen" duh!

Here's an excerpt:

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?  It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is why some white guys are opening themselves to black women? Let’s concentrate on that.

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**Evia Moore Launches New Interracial Forum**

Evia Moore of Black Female Interracial Marriage Ezine  has just launched the new forum Black Female Interracial Slice.  Congrats Evia!!

So drop by, introduce yourself, and share a little bit of interracial love and wisdom.

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Visit the forum after the jump...

Does Your Family Ask You to Dumb Yourself Down For a Love Interest?

While surfing the net this morning, I came across this post on an interracial forum:




Hello everyone. For the last eight years I started dating, black, white, whatever.  I recently told me [sic] mom that I was dating a nice white man. He is so f-ing great. She told me that she would pray that I find a black man and told me that If I wanted a black man to stop telling them that I am smart and do kick-boxing.  I like who I am and who I'm dating. But she is so serious about this and has stopped talking to me because of it- Spottedfeet, 25 Years old, Louisianna



Seriously? In 2011 there are parents telling their daughters (specifically mothers) not to let a man know how intelligent they are.  I’m all about being a little competitive on the battlefield but this is both sad and ridiculous. I’m also disturbed that  her mother is trying to push her into a relationship with an insecure man just because he's black however giving her grief for dating a white man. Thankfully this young lady knows her worth and has reached out to share her situation.  *Sigh*




Spotted over at Daily Strength.




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Seasons Greetings!

No explanation necessary. Enjoy...

Interracial Relationships: From a Teenager's Point of View

I've always said that the youngsters of today know  exactly what they want and aren't afraid to say or show it.  I tell you what, if the older generation wasn't around screwing things up, the world would be such a happier place to live in!


Some of these old coots need to stop hanging on and die already LOL.


Now on to Justin's Sociology project he did for his teacher Mrs St Sing...

When Interracial Relationships Goes Wrong

I guess the "Prince" thought he could pump a few gallons of gas and get away with this mess:


A down low, gay Saudi prince was found guilty today of killing his black sex slave in February in a London hotel where they were staying.


Prince Saud Abdulaziz Bin Nasser Al Saud, 34, was found guilty of killing Bandar Abdulaziz, 32, and of causing grievous bodily harm.


A down low, gay Saudi prince was found guilty today of killing his black sex slave in February in a London hotel where they were staying.


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Dating While Brown Has A Forum!

Welcome to the Dating While Brown Community Forums. Dating While Brown facilitates bringing people together from various races, cultures and lifestyles from all corners the world share, to discuss relationships with families, partners spouses, parents and friends. Register for free and start topics or join right in- DWB

That's right so don't be shy. Come on over so that we can finally get to know each other. This is a community forum and it's for everyone to share and enjoy. So I'll see ya on the board. :-D

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Race and Dating In Boston

Meredith Goldstein
Boston.com


I am a young, black, college-educated professional who has lived in Boston for most of my life. I recently turned 30 and am ready to have a serious relationship with someone special, irrespective of race.

I have dated a few Caucasian and Asian men, and one person from the Middle East. Every one of these encounters ended immediately after they realized that I was expecting more than a sexual relationship (I usually ended it). However, getting to that point was only half the battle. The hardest part was the approach! I think a lot of surprisingly wonderful relationships could be had if people weren't afraid to step inside or outside of the "crayon box." There have been many instances where I'll overhear a white guy telling his friends how "hot" he thinks I am or after having way too many beers obnoxiously yell "I love Black chicks!" Not including the annoying drunk guy -- why won't non-black men approach me if there is physical interest? Before anyone ask... yes I date black men. More after the jump...

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Did The Black Woman's Role of Second Banana In Hollywood Receive an Upgrade?

Second Banana- noun Informal

1. One, such as an assistant or deputy, who is subordinate to another.
2. One who serves as the straight man opposite the leading comedian in a burlesque.

3. E.g. Larry, Curly, (and Shemp) is to Moe.
4. Gordon Quid and Waffle is to Mr Blik.

Earlier today while over at Skypurple's spot, I came across Columbia Pictures' movie trailer Eat Pray Love. It's the story of a white woman who travels the world to find Yoda herself and ends up finding true love in the process. It stars Julia Roberts, Javier Bardem and that fine azz James Franco. But hey this is Hollywood so what chick flick is complete without a BBF- Black Best Flunky Female? You know what I mean. The black chick that's either the sassy know-it-all, the matronly nurturer or the rational thinker.

For some strange reason, the primary job of the BBF is to uplift, teach and support the main character. More disturbing the BBF is almost always seen as asexual- never being paired up with anyone romantically or sexually. Except for that one time when Tara hooked up with Sam out in Bon Temps. However that's a story in itself. So imagine my surprise when I realized that Robert's BBF, Oscar Nominee Viola Davis is in a relationship with a...wait for it...a white man! Furthermore it appears that the two characters are actually married...to each other *gasps*

Even if this movie has made a slight attempt to go The Princess and The Frog route on us, it's not enough to make me wanna drop 10 bucks on a Julia flick. Frankly I'd rather see her brother Eric spazzing out in his trademark crazy-man roles. Besides, Eric Anthony has great hair!

So is Hollywood giving the BBF roles an upgrade with a twist? Will we begin to see black women in more [interracial] romantic roles? Or will they continue to lag behind the real world?

Catch the trailer after the jump...

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Wonder Why Black Women "Settling" Is Often Lauded In The BC? Blame Billy D & Miss Ross

That's right I said it. The "nothing but a black man" mantra was started by no other than Billy D "Colt 45 Williams and diva-extraordinaire Diane Ross- better known as Diana in front of company 'n all.

For those of you older than cable, you know exactly what I'm tombout. I'm referring to the 1975 Black American Classic Mahogany. For those of you not in the know, Mahogany is to black folks as A Star is Born is to white folks. The similarities are uncanny. Kris Kristofferson forsakes his career for the love of Babs while Diana Ross forsakes her career for the love of Sweet Billy D. Ironic ain't it? Of course there are a few distinctions among these two classics. For example, during the first 6 1/2 minutes of the film Diana is chased by a drugged-out sex predator. But I digress.

Instead of writing a double-spaced thesis on a 2 hour film, I've decided to make my 9th grade English teacher proud (shout out to me and Diana's Alma mater) by presenting you with the CliffsNotes version of the movie:

Tracy Chambers played by Diana Ross, dreams of leaving the slums of Chicago as a Fashion Designer. However her boyfriend, Brian Walker, played by Billy D Williams, dreams of making it big right there in the slums by running for Alderman. They quickly fall in love in spite of not sharing an onscreen love scene. Sounds beautiful right? Except that there are several underlying themes that would make Ms Perry throw a mean side-eye. For instance the scene where Tracy bails Brian out of jail by writing a bad check. True, she instigates the fight which landed him there, but why do we not see Brian actually working? We witness Tracy putting up with her racist boss at the high-end department store where she works. We even watch her struggling to spread her creative wings as she attends night school. The only thing we see Brian doing is waving a bullhorn and beaten up white construction workers.

Once Brian finds out just how passionate Tracy truly is, he quickly displays his insecurities. See Exhibit A. Clearly he thinks that Tracy is getting above her raisin' right at the 6:36 mark. Now-a-days, Brian's bitchazzness certainly qualifies him as a playa-hater (or hater for short). But since it's 1975 his 'tude places him in the running for the Jive Turkey category.

Exhibit A

Next up are the "this is what happens when you get romantically involved with whitey" scenarios. Tracy gets a big boost in her career by noted photographer Sean McEvoy played by Anthony Perkins. Due to his famed reputation and great connections, he's able to fly her to Rome where she's an instant success. Later on Tracy feels obligated to "pay him back". This is around the same time we realize he's impotent. What's even worst, Sean turns out to be a psychotic sociopath and ends up killing himself while trying to kill her. What better way to keep black women from white men than to have Norman Bates play love interest to Ms Ross.

I guess the director didn't think we understood him the first time. So he sends in white man #2 in the form of Count Christian Rosetti, played by Jean Pierre Aumont. Basically Count Rosetti comes in and dusts Tracy off, lifts her up and assists her in furthering her career. Christian obviously has more money than God (he's a count for Christ sakes) and makes no secret how he feels about her. But once again she's not feeling the whiskey-bravo. Looka here, Rosetti is a little long in the tooth but um...I'll smash Count Chocula if the money is right.

Amazingly enough, Tracy continues to pine over "Colt 45" which by now has turned quite sickening. The man belittles her career choices and continues to remind Tracy that she's nothing without him. Now keep in mind dude ain't held down a regla 9 to 5 since the opening credits. Furthermore he has failed to suggest forsaking his "profession" let alone moving to a better part of Chicago George & Weezy style. Well I guess I don't have to tell you how it all ends. Tracy gives up fame, fortune and a castle to live in squalor with a self-centered man with no job and a bad fro. Damn who's responsible for this crap?

Oh yeah now I remember...Berry Gordy. That splains it.

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Ahh Canada You Gotta Love 'Em!

Sex is like food. No, wait, relationships are like food, and the more they mix, the better they taste. Yes, I said taste -Jeff Groat

Go head Jeff with ya bad self!

Love Is (Color) Blind

Caddi Golia tries to ignore the stares when she walks down the sidewalks of Washington with her boyfriend. Holding hands and smiling at each other, they look like any other couple. Except for one clear difference: She’s black and he’s white. Mixed-race couples have been popping up in big-name movies such as Tyler Perry’s I Can Do Bad All by Myself and Rick Famuyiwa’s Our Family Wedding. Still, students like Golia and her boyfriend Jake Reed still think their relationship is viewed as anything but mainstream. For many mixed-race couples at this university, the issue isn’t their relationships being tolerated — it’s their relationships being accepted. “It can get awkward,” said Golia, a junior public health major. “I don’t think [my boyfriend] notices, but I do and I just generally ignore it”