Girls Are Like M&Ms

Black Woman Married To A White Man Gets Ridiculed On Air...

Talk radio host Dr. Laura Schlessinger issued an apology for saying the N-word several times during an on-air conversation with a caller this week. "I talk every day about doing the right thing. And yesterday, I did the wrong thing," Schlessinger said on her radio show Wednesday.


Schlessinger was referring to a call she got on her show Tuesday from an African-American woman who said she was married to a white man and was getting fed up with her husband allowing his family and friends to say things that she felt were racist.- CNN


What in the tomandhelenwillis Hell is going on? Did the woman ever get some adequate advice?


Sooo many questions *scratches head*  :-/


Here the racial rant phone call after the jump...

Can We Please Let It Go?

So I was invited to an interracial get together a few days ago.  I had an amazing time- great food, great wine, and interesting people. There were men from all walks of life: white collar, blue collar, computer analysis, teachers, and entrepreneurs.  There were various races present too: Caucasians, African-Americans, Asians, and Haitians just to name a few.   

But here lies the issue:

At one point during the evening, a young black woman leans over to me and whispers, “I always wanted to know why black men came to parties like this.” Then she glared over to the two black men having a lively conversation with three white women over glasses of wine.   I looked over at her and said “I’m hoping they’re here for the same reason you are…to meet people and fun.”  


Suddenly she snapped out of her fog like daze and said, “Um what I’m saying is, I’ve dated white men before…my last boyfriend was white, but like, since I’ve moved here, black men, don’t really seem interested.”  Now keep in mind there was a bi-racial man (Asian/Black) sitting next to her and heard our conversation.  He interrupts her and asks, “Then why do you care what black men are doing?”  So she spends the next 10 minutes trying to back-pedal her way out of the question.  However “bi-racial guy” still tries to flirt with her (hard too) but her head was still stuck on the “brothas” at the party-and it showed too!

Just to be fair, black women aren’t the only ones who just can’t let it go and move on.  I came across a very impressive website dedicated to Asian men and the women who love them.  It’s been around for about four or five years now.  There are active forums, galleries, and members can create individual blogs.  If you are in a relationship with an Asian man, there’s a support system in place where you can discuss cultural and relationship issues.  I believe the main purpose of the site is to reinforce positivity as well as uplift Asian men.  A concept I believe many would agree that’s needed in the Asian community.  


However, many of the Asian men spend most of their time on the site blogging about …wait for it…Asian women!  Topics like, “why are Asian women dating white men”, “we love our Asian beautiful women”,  “why are Asian women dating/marrying out” are blogged and discussed quite often. 


Of course the writers and forum members are met with the usual “you guys are so sexy there are plenty of women who love you and find you beautiful and yada, yada, yada.  In one of the forums there was even some talk about hooking up with white women just to get back at Asian women.  For a minute I thought I was on Black Voices or the Young Black and Fabulous site.  The similarities were uncanny.  How creepy is that?

At first I thought about joining but I asked myself why? Instead I exited the site thinking to myself, “Wow, is this how non-black men feel when they hear black women spouting off about black love?”

I'm Out!

Did The Black Woman's Role of Second Banana In Hollywood Receive an Upgrade?

Second Banana- noun Informal

1. One, such as an assistant or deputy, who is subordinate to another.
2. One who serves as the straight man opposite the leading comedian in a burlesque.

3. E.g. Larry, Curly, (and Shemp) is to Moe.
4. Gordon Quid and Waffle is to Mr Blik.

Earlier today while over at Skypurple's spot, I came across Columbia Pictures' movie trailer Eat Pray Love. It's the story of a white woman who travels the world to find Yoda herself and ends up finding true love in the process. It stars Julia Roberts, Javier Bardem and that fine azz James Franco. But hey this is Hollywood so what chick flick is complete without a BBF- Black Best Flunky Female? You know what I mean. The black chick that's either the sassy know-it-all, the matronly nurturer or the rational thinker.

For some strange reason, the primary job of the BBF is to uplift, teach and support the main character. More disturbing the BBF is almost always seen as asexual- never being paired up with anyone romantically or sexually. Except for that one time when Tara hooked up with Sam out in Bon Temps. However that's a story in itself. So imagine my surprise when I realized that Robert's BBF, Oscar Nominee Viola Davis is in a relationship with a...wait for it...a white man! Furthermore it appears that the two characters are actually married...to each other *gasps*

Even if this movie has made a slight attempt to go The Princess and The Frog route on us, it's not enough to make me wanna drop 10 bucks on a Julia flick. Frankly I'd rather see her brother Eric spazzing out in his trademark crazy-man roles. Besides, Eric Anthony has great hair!

So is Hollywood giving the BBF roles an upgrade with a twist? Will we begin to see black women in more [interracial] romantic roles? Or will they continue to lag behind the real world?

Catch the trailer after the jump...

I'm out!

Stay True To Your Own Beauty...

"Stay true to your own beauty,and it will be appreciated by someone you meet. "

-quote by an arrogant bastard who quotes himself (Tenchijk)

I had another video that I wanted to post as vid of the week..ok, so I'm an official stan LOL. But I'll still post the other video later this week because I want to do a serious reflective blog on the other one. Lata!

3 Quick Tips To Ensure A Successful First Date

An attractive white man and gorgeous black woman walks into a crowded restaurant holding hands. As the hostess motions them to their table, a fair number of patrons began to sneak curious glances at the couple. As the handsome gentleman pulls out a chair for his beautiful counterpart, he's met with a few sneers from some of the restaurant goers.

When the beautiful woman sits down, the couple instantly become engaged in light conversation which includes looks of longing and laughter between the two. Although many of the guests grab quick looks of curiosity, the sexy couple seem oblivious to their surroundings. It's quite obvious they're completely enamored with each other. A first date such as this can be achieved by following 3 simple steps:

1. While on an outing together, realize that you're on a date with him/her...not the rest of the world. This is about the two of you. Put your best foot forward and just relax.

2. As with any other date, make the topics of discussions light and friendly. The general rule of thumb for first time daters is to stay away from politics, race, and religion. If you make it past the first date, you'll have plenty of time to talk about hefty issues.

3. Zero in on your date. In other words, focus on what your date is saying and try not to monopolize the conversation.

Glances of disbelief and amazement are the little idiosyncrasies that interracial couples are faced with from time to time. Yet the degrees of rubbernecking are often determined by the areas in which you may reside. The more culturally diverse the region, the less interracial couples are viewed as an oddity. With that being said, never let someone's discomfort deter you from choosing who you wish to be with. Nor let them ruin your first date!