Do You Date The Same Way You Handle Your Finances?

When my cousins married white women it didn’t seem to cause an uproar. For some reason, I don’t expect the same reaction if Stephanie or I decided to marry a white man.

I don’t have any proof of this, it’s just a feeling I get. It seems that we aren’t supposed to have the same options as our cousins did- Wise Diva


Folks we pretty much know how society usually reacts when it comes to black women dating out.

Selena-pedia, First Edition 2010, defines dating out as getting bizzy with the enemy, hooking up with massa, or worshipping tha white man. In layman's terms "dating-out" typically refers to the romantic relationship between said black woman and the whiskey-bravo (better known in the urban community as a white boy).

However the real question is, do you date the same way you handle your finances? In other words, are you the type of person that places all of his/her eggs in one basket-while hoping for a small profit? Or do you exercise ALL your dating options while undoubtedly receiving the highest rate of return all your time and hard research can buy?

To quote Access Atlanta's the Wise Diva,"Are you diversifying your dating options?"

Am I on a Date With You or Your IPhone?

Here I am, sitting next to a couple of iTards. Do you know what iTards are? iTards are basically two people who sit across a table from each other and instead of conversing, they just pass an iPhone back and forth to each other. “Look at my picture!” “Wow, look at the new YouTube video that just got posted!” “Wow, check this website out!”  This made me realize that there is a whole new style of dating going on out there. It’s called iTard Dating.  In iTard Dating, you really don’t talk about emotions or life experiences. You just pass an iPhone back and forth to each other- David Wygant




Wow have I gotten so old that I believe its rude to leave your cell phone on during a date?  Let me tell you something,  I will actually walk out on a date if the guy I'm with takes numerous calls or shows signs he can't string two sentences together unless there's a phone stuck in his ear.  Sheeesh!

Speed Dating With Patti Stanger

"Joe was kinda low key. The minute Jheri came to the table all of a sudden his personality was brought to life…and she let him lead -Patti Stanger

So this is what goes on during speed dating.

Zoe & Peter - Dang Zoe looks like she just got out of bed. I guess that hair is the business.

Julia & Elliot- Oh my Elliot is a barrel of laughs. Wait a minute did she just Sieg Heil his azz?!? I guess she didn't get the memo lol.

Julie & Mike- "Elaine" is definitely down with the swirl no doubt about it. Uh from the looks of it, I think its best she sticks with Seinfeld.

Monet & Mike- Have you noticed that the non-black women don't hesitate to ask Mike his ethnicity? I'm sure he's probably used to it but damn give Kojak a break!

Jheri & Peter- I think overall this one was the best match. Cute!

It's not About The Pick-Up

Approaching women is probably the most difficult thing a man will ever do (besides asking to marry her). Some men “get it” but it seems that even more don’t. There are countless articles, books, videos and blogs that address this issue profusely. As a matter of fact just three months ago askmen.com did a piece on the do’s and don’ts in the approach and it caused quite a buzz among it’s readers. One thing’s for certain, you throw in a little thing called race in America and you got even more hurdles to jump over for both parties.

Ladies and gentlemen I introduce to you David Wygant, relationship extraordinaire. I think he’s facinating but comes off a little cheesy at times. I posted the below video because I wanted to highlight the differences in dating/approaching techniques among black/non-black men. Notice how David emphasizes the importance of giving women their space during the initial contact.

A lot goes into NOT being overly aggressive and non-threatening. David also coaches his clients on learning the body language that women display during the courtship. This is very important, particularly among interracial daters. Just a few weeks ago, one of  Dawn Ali's readers missed a dating opportunity because she didn’t realize when a man runs his hands through his hair it’s usually a good thing. I guess she’s probably still kicking herself lol.


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