Oxygen's Love Games: And Kendra Chooses...

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You Don’t Attract The Wrong Men, You ACCEPT The Wrong Men!

If you consistently find yourself in relationships with liars, cheaters, addicts, leeches, or commitmentphobes, your job isn’t to get them to stop lying, cheating, drinking, mooching or committing. Your job is to leave. At a certain point, it’s not his fault for being fundamentally flawed.It’s your fault for thinking that your chemistry is powerful enough to change your broken relationship. Remember, most men are the wrong men. Men with chemistry are the ones who break through, but you give them a free pass. You’ll never stop attracting the wrong men, but starting now, you can stop ACCEPTING the bad behavior of the wrong men… and save yourself years of heartbreak and pain- Evan Katz


I think I'm in love *sigh* lol

Damn Even The Texan White Guy Smells Bullsh**

For society to become concerned with the plight of black women now that black women are succeeding on their own terms would be comical if it weren’t so sad. 

Many of the black women succeeding today have toiled in obscurity for years at the bottom of the societal barrel, often in broken homes and with life circumstances that would melt most people.  The fact that our society is saying black women need to find a good black man to settle down with is an insult.- Jeff Bolton



Earlier today while visiting my girl CW's site I came across an interesting article written by a gentleman by the name of Jeff Bolton.  Honestly, I've never heard of him before today, but I'm glad she posted the article. Bacially Jeff is just as puzzled as most of us are as to why the media continues to grind out these "woe is me" stories about African-American women in dating and marriage.

One of my favorite quotes from Jeff:

There’s nothing wrong with them. They shouldn’t be forced into a box made by society’s expectations for them. Why is the sad, tired story of the failure of black men in society placed ahead of that of the success of black women in this pop culture reporting? 

O_o  *scratches head*

One commenter named Monie believes she knows the real reason for the relentless bashing against African-American women in the media:

Monie:

Ever since Michelle has become the First Lady, there has been an onslaught of negative images and commentary. Michelle Obama is well-spoken, classy, fit, formally educated and happily married with children. It’s as if the media wants to quickly remind black women of who we “really are” and to not get lost in the “fantasy” that is Michelle’s life.  So what do they do? Replace magazine cover images of the Gabby Unions with the Gabby Sidibes, promote televised discussions and books written by self-appointed black relationship gurus who are nothing more than womanizers themselves (Harvey and Harper) and fill the magazines and e-mags with articles on single black womanhood to plague us with self-doubt, loneliness and bitterness. It’s so pathetic; and I don’t hear this nonsense about black women in countries like the United Kingdom. They really need to leave us alone. More after the jump...
 

Clutch Magazine: What White Men Think About Dating Black Women

Clutch Magazine’s Alaina Lewis did a great piece on interracial dating among black women and white men. Several white men were interviewed, and let’s just say most of them (if not all) got more than a little real with their responses!

Alaina: Have you, or have you ever considered dating a black woman?

“I have, but it’s something that’s unfortunately never happened for me, because every time I approach a black woman I sense a resistance of not wanting to be with someone white, unless he acts black. And I’m not trying to offend anyone with my ‘acts black’ statement. I’m just meaning, that black women only want to date white men who have a little more soul than I do and don’t listen to rock music.” – Paul G.

“I’ve dated African American women, Asian women, white women and whomever else. When you turn out the lights, they’re all just women. The only difference is, some like mayonnaise on everything, and the others like soy or hot sauce. A little joke for ya.” – Rory H.

Alaina: Do the negative stereotypes the media projects on the African American woman scare you away from dating that race? ( i.e. “the black woman’s attitude.”)

“No, I don’t buy into any theories that attitude is more common among black women, there’s plenty of women with attitude in every race. I’ve met some ‘white trash’ princesses in my day with attitude that is off the charts. Anyway, the media just promotes whatever seems to get them the highest ratings. Unfortunately nowadays, that involves showcasing vulgar, loudmouth, self-obsessed, drunken skanks. Shows like the “Jersey Shore,” “The Real World,” and any other reality show on VH1 or MTV are prime examples. If I took my cues from the media, I would be scared of dating all women.” – Jesse D.

“It’s not the media that scares me away from not wanting to date a black women, it’s black men that make me think differently. I say that to say this, and I’m only giving you my observation… I see a lot of black men running around with a white girl on their arm, which is fine, but when I’ve sat down with brothers and asked them why they don’t like dating black women, they always have something negative to say about you guys, whether it be your attitude, your jealousy, or the thought that you guys want to play the man of the house. I don’t need to watch to TV to see what I can see when I walk down the block. But I don’t have to buy into that either, which I don’t, but I am aware of what’s being said about yall by your own men. It’s a shame to see that.” – Paul G.

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